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How to Know if Your Boyfriend Likes Your Best Friend

If you have a boyfriend who has been showing your best friend just a little too much attention, you may be wondering what you should do. The one thing you shouldn’t do at this point is panic. You may be reading too much into what you think is going on. There are many male/female friendships that have nothing to do with sex, attraction, or anything of the sort. It may just be that your boyfriend and best friend share something in common, namely, you. Sometimes boyfriends will try to show you how important you are to them by taking an interest in your life and the things you like. This could very well be the case here. There is a difference between being friendly with a member of the opposite sex and flirting. Before confronting your boyfriend and possibly making a fool of yourself, try to examine all of the facts just to be certain.

 Try Asking First

 Before we go into all the signs which could point to the fact that your boyfriend likes your best friend, we should first examine the most obvious solution. Sometimes you can obtain an answer to your question by simply asking. Keep in mind that you may not always like the answer but sometimes it’s much better to know for sure than to keep guessing. Do not be concerned with whether or not you will hurt your boyfriend’s feelings or make him angry. Obviously, something has prompted you to begin questioning his motives. Remember that you are important and your feelings are valid. After all, if you are wrong and your boyfriend really loves you, what harm could come from talking to him?

 The Man Doth Protest Too Much

 While this is really just an old Shakespearean quote, it holds quite a lot of meaning. If you have taken the step and questioned your boyfriend, what was his reaction? Was he calm and mild manner when providing you with an answer? Did he seem uncomfortable or pause briefly before answering? Did he get angry and jump down your throat in what seemed like an over the top reaction to an innocent question? If your boyfriend went out of his way to proclaim his innocence by putting on a theatrical performance, you may want to consider the fact that he could be lying.

Does He Talk About Her All The Time?

 A good sign that your boyfriend is into your best friend may simply be him asking where she is each time you see him. It isn’t normal for your boyfriend to focus on the whereabouts of your best friend, at least not if it is happening often. If he should ask you about her, this may be a great time to ask him why he is so worried about where she is. It could cause an argument but it’s certainly a nice way of opening the lines of communication regarding the issue. Of course you must keep in mind that his first answer will probably not be as honest as you would like. If nothing else, questioning him will at least alert him to the fact that you are onto him, if indeed there is anything shady going on in his head.

 A Woman’s Intuition

 This may sound like the oldest cliché in the book but a woman’s ability to “know” things she shouldn’t know has been proven time and time again. Anytime your gut is telling you to beware of something, you need to pay attention. At least nine times out of ten, barring the presence of any sort of psychosis, your intuition will hold some truth. If you have a deep seated feeling that something is going on, chances are you are correct. You may not have all the facts straight but you will sense something is very wrong. In most cases, this “feeling” is what causes women to act in the first place. As a woman, the one thing in your life that you can almost always bet on is your intuition.

 How to Spot if the Attraction is Mutual

 Body language is very important when trying to assess how attracted someone is to another person. If your boyfriend seems to gaze a little bit too long in your best friend’s general direction, you might have cause for concern. When the three of you are together, does he tend to ignore your end of the conversation in favor of listening to her? Do the two of them seem to connect on some hidden level as if they are always in the midst of an “inside joke”? If any of these things are occurring, it is a safe bet to say that there may be some sort of attraction there, on both of their parts.

If you have come to the conclusion that your boyfriend does in fact like your best friend, you will have to make a choice. If you have discovered that the two of them actually like each other, you will have an even harder decision to make. They say that a friend can last a lifetime and a boyfriend just a fleeting moment. While this may be hard for you to see right now because you are hurt and angry, there is some truth to it. The most important piece of evidence for you to take into consideration, while assessing the situation, is how both parties reacted to their feelings. If they were blatantly disrespectful and showed no remorse then you are probably better off without either of them. However, if one of them seemed genuinely apologetic and has committed to trying to work this out, you will have to decide how important that particular relationship is to you.